FIDELITY

In lieu of the Tiger situation, it has come to mind the age old question about does having money xcuse a person for being a dog. Quite frankly, the moral scene scene of our world has declined to an all time low. Marriage has been downplayed as an institution, (ie living together without being married). However, every1 wants the fringe benefits of a monogamous relationship. You see deep down, we all have the compulsion and the strong desire to be loved by the one we love. There are no xceptions. It is within human nature to want to be acknowledged, praised, adored, revered, put on a pedestal. But in order to receive such gifts, you must be willing to give such gifts. There is no 'me' in a relationship. It is a 'we' thing. True mature adults comprehend this concept. But if you are in a union for the wrong reasons, (ie 401 k plan, health insurance, etc), it will never work. Love and respect go hand in hand. If you truly love and respect your partner, you will be moved to be faithful. It is very simple. Selfishness is what complicates a relationship. Ironically, both persons could be guilty of some form of selfishness if there are problems within the relationship. No one is immune because we all are imperfect. We will "fudge up" from time to time. However, when the individual still holds onto the belief that he/she is 'in but not totally there' or how i like to phrase it "lease with option to buy", lol. What you give is xactly what you receive. And yes a person can do right by their partner and still have their partner be unfaithful. But the action falls on the cheating mate, not you. Justice always comes full circle. Justice has its own time schedule. All you have to do is sit back and enjoy the ride. If people would invest the time and energy that they use to conduct these affairs into their marriages, there would be no need for divorce attorneys, lol! Seriously, fidelity is a CHOICE!! It is not something that you catch or fall into. It is a DECISION that you make based upon how the individual in question has behaved towards you overall. Recognizing that there will always be difficulties and trials, but could you see yourself handling life's travesties, triumphs, and accomplishments without this person? Do they enhance your life? Make you want to be a better person. Improve your current friendships and important relationships in your life. These are the many factors one should consider before entering a union. Not how much money they got or if they will make cute babies. But we live in a superficial, materialistic world. And that is why we have the issues that we have as a society. As long as we glorify, and condone these actions and behaviors, the moral decline will sink even deeper. Remember, we are building the pattern for the children, your children. Do you want them to be like this, or better?

thumpy's joint: IF U CAN'T CLEAN IT UP, DON'T MESS IT UP!!!! ;-)